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 Oru Nalla Appante Chavarul

Sayings of Saint Kuriakose Elias Chavara to Children

Saint Kuriakose Elias Chavara the pioneer of education, tried to do away with the caste distinction in Kerala and make it possible for all the children irrespective of caste creed to sit together and study. He first used the word Pallikkoodam in Malayalam Language.

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Children, you are God's investment in the hands of your parents.

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The Children who have love of God and fear of God will love and respect their parents

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Trust your mother; God will hear the mother's request like the baby's request.

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Wisdom and purity should be spiritual food, like food for natural growth.

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Go to school regularly and recall what is taught during the week.

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Laziness fosters evil habits.

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Let your friends be those who love God.

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Good friends will make you good.

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Keeping of bad books is like hiding fire in straw.

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Regular reading of good books and meditating on it will illumine the mind.

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Attain punctuality by means of a regular time-table.

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You angels will be turned to devils, if you fall into evil situation.

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You ought to reach home before evening and take part in the evening prayers.

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Your attire and sanctity ought to be according to your age.

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Immoderate attire will only lead you to evil.

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Let your ability be in piety regulating your life and controlling your senses.

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You ought to love truth and justice.

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What you earn by deceit and theft will melt like snow.

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Your profession must be according to your knowledge and age.

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Let there be no day in your life in which you did no good to others.

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Let not the insult and quarrels of others be a cause of hatred and enmity.

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Do not insult or trouble the poor.

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God decides your vocation and you choose it.

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When you choose your partner in life, choose one who has a good character and good manners

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Even if you are grown in age and maturity you have to accept your parents and submit to them

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Do not hate your own brethren.

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It is the duty of children to look after their parents.

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Do not be the cause of your parents shedding tears on account of you.

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The humble man is the greatest among men.

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Since you belong to God, you should be given back to God.

 
Saint Kuriakose Elias Chavara’s Message to Families

1.  A good Christian Family resembles to heavenly abode. All the members in the family who are either related by birth or bonded in nuptial relations shall regard the elders in high esteem and live together in unity and solidarity. Every person shall maintain highest dignity and aim salvation in all his words and deeds.

2.  Your children are divine investments and they shall be brought up in the best way possible and you shall extend to them all kinds of protection. They are to purified in the Holy Grail, made his disciple and to be committed to Him on the Day of Judgment. This is the responsibility that Lord Jesus has assigned to you.

3.  All the members in a family shall have a deep rooted love for one another. This underlying love can bring in peace and friendship in the family, which in turn enables them to face the troubles and tribulations with utmost calm and thereby they overcome all the tragedies in life.

4.  In every family there shall be order and peace and they shall always have concern for eternal salvation. It may be noted that many a good family had plunged into utter ruins owing to its absence.

5.  They shall be given good books worth reading. The parents shall take special care that undesirable publications do not reach them. Possessing indecent publications is like keep fire on a haystack.

6. You shall take extreme care in the upbringing of your children. You shall make it a daily practice that you will remember them in your prayers.

7.  Parents shall keep a close watch in the educational pursuits of their children. It must be ensured frequently that they do not be trapped into undesirable friendships.

8.  Parents must also be very moderate in blaming and punishing their children. Gentle words carry more weight than high-sounding outcries.

9.  Children must be taught to say their prayers at an early stage. Let them grow up in a strong faith of God.

10. Your daily routines shall be punctual and in order. It shall not be like a loose bound book.

11. Parents shall also ensure that their children are given ample freedom when they attain the age of discretion to choose their vocation.

12. Parents shall also see that they prepare there will when in good health and discretion and that the family property may be divided according to the rules and customs in force.

13. It is the sacred duty of the children to respect their parents diligently. They shall be taken care of as a treasure in their old age and sickness. Such children are eligible for the grace of God.

14 Your relationship and friendship shall be highly prudent. It shall be ensured that your friendship is extended to morally and ethically good people.

15. Responding with a vengeance is cruel. It must be borne in mind that a good character can be expected from a person of reason and patience.

16. Do not drag petty differences into courts of law. That can move hearts into farther zones.

17. Do not borrow money from others. Such insolvency can lead even your children to trouble after your life.

18. Do not expose your opulence. Be humble in words and activities. You must also discard luxuries in marriages. A burning fire in haystack is momentary. But a small light shedding from a little lamp can remain for a very long time.

19. Luxury and miserliness are the two sides of the same coin. Both can lead you to evil designs. Your money should be utilized for common good. Otherwise you will be doing unethical things.

20. You shall keep relationships with God-loving people. Material gains shall not be your sole aim.

21. Industriousness shall be maintained in your homes. Do not while away your time. Sloth leads you to many vices.

22. Liquor is a major vice and shall not be allowed to enter your home. Many families have been destroyed by this evil.

23. Be upright in your business activities. Whatever you amass through dishonesty and tricks can be dissolved like a mass of snow.

24. There shall not be any day in your life, which is not devoted to others with some kind of help. God will not count that day as part of your life. You must also see that alms-seekers are not driven away.

25. Your servants shall be given appropriate remuneration. Do not talk ill of the poor and the weak. If you do so their tears shall bear witness against you in the heavenly court of God.

26. There is a panacea for maintaining the divine light in your homes. That is the Holy Mass conducted in the church. Make sure at least one member of your family attending it daily.

27. Is it sufficient to attend the holy mass on Sundays and on the days of obligation? No! That day must be devoted for reading good books, doing good things and for listening to gospel discourse. You must also find time to visit the poor and the sick.

28. You shall not default your family prayer at any cost. You shall say your prayers with all members at the appointed time. Let that be a witness to others as well.

( Above advices have been taken from Saint Kuriakose Elias Chavara’s last words (Chavarul) intended as rules for keeping the integrity of families )

 
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